Yes, we are all so self-confident that we really do think we don’t need any advice. But, if you actually took a couple of minutes anytime you saw an article on that topic, you would be three times a lover you are now. So, without further ado take a look at this list of five most important sex tips for every 20-something gay guy out there. It doesn’t matter if you just came out or you’ve been out of the closet for a long time, and it doesn’t really matter if you’re a top or a bottom, these tips might help you more than you think. If you’re a heterosexual and still reading this – take a look, you might learn something you haven’t known before:
Keep it clean and safe
The most important tip ever is to keep yourself clean, as not many of us like it THAT dirty. No matter whether you give or receive, regular hygiene is a must, and not only for a gay guy. Wouldn’t you like to rim or give head to something spotless? That’s right. Another thing that you should always have in mind is to practice safe sex. Recent studies have shown that there is an increasing number of HIV positive gay guys among the African-American and Latino community, so practicing safe sex, even if you don’t like it, is definitely something you should do. However, if you’re really not into that – take your partner and go get yourselves tested. It’s not expensive and it will only take a couple of minutes.
What that mouth do (part 1)
No, we’re not talking about oral sex (yet). One of the best sex weapons out there is definitely your tongue and the power of words. During foreplay and sex, it is very important that you speak. Don’t make a mistake though, we’re not talking about regular conversation here. Tell your partner everything you want him to do to you, or the nasty things you want to do to him. This will definitely enhance the sexual satisfaction for the both of you. If you accept this tip and do that mouth magic while you’re hopping up and down, your partner will definitely be very grateful.
Make your partner relax
There’s nothing more annoying than telling someone to calm down when they’re upset. Here, things are no different: if your partner is experiencing pain (that is if he’s new to gay sex), telling him to relax is just not enough. This is what foreplay is there for: take your time to make your partner comfortable – talk, cuddle, kiss. Once you’re naked, take your tongue downtown to calm the muscles down there. Rimming your partner a bit if he’s about to receive your package will do the trick. Also, use your favourite lube to make the sex smell nice and more comfortable an enjoyable for the both of you.
Thank you Kylie Minogue for this term! Getting enough sexercise is never a bad thing, and you can do this in multiple ways. For example, no matter if you’re a top or a bottom, doing yoga can increase your flexibility in bed and thus definitely make your partner want sex once again shortly after ejaculation. However, if you are a receiver, make sure to exercise your anus as much as you can to ensure maximum satisfaction. Doing this with sex toys such as the Aneros stimulator or a dildo of the size of your man’s penis will not only increase your satisfaction while masturbating, but you will be more prepared in bed as well.
What that mouth do (part 2)
Now we’re talking about oral sex! Rimming and giving a blowjob is definitely not a taboo topic anymore, and doing this as much as you can is definitely a good way to go. No matter if you’re a 20-, 30- or 40-something gay guy, performing oral sex even if you know that penetration cannot happen is a thing now and it will definitely spice up your sex life. If you’re, let’s say, at a restaurant with friends, take your partner to the toilet and have two to three minutes of happiness there – the sex that will follow after the dinner is going to be groundbreaking. Sex is not only about the actual penetration, it’s everything that comes before, during and after it. And if you want a steady, healthy sexual relationship, your tongue is the key.
As you can see, all of the tips above are rather simple, yet many forget about these. Put your self-confidence on the side, take your time and think about the things you will do this weekend. Maybe we haven’t told you anything you didn’t already know, but we sure did give you several new ideas, right?
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